The Secret Advisors

 

                 

My eyes open and my mind maze begins to navigate my consciousness into regions that seem lit up, needing attention.My partner sees my perplexed face and demands to want to help.

Sure, if he could enter my brain and ask the talking tom to stop talking and walking all over the place, I could perhaps get a moment to explain the contents of my “process” via speech in order to take him up on his offer to help.

There are times, I get the opportunity of mildly composing my thoughts before I give words to them. It leads to a session wherein I start to reveal all that I see and feel, and I see him spacing out, few minutes into the monologue. 😊

I understand, since they are not his memories, he cannot toggle between the snippets I provide, leave alone make sense of it.

I am all for encouraging curiosity. Its wonderful to be curious, but to expect sealed answer/results to satisfy the curiosity, enforces a need for urgent decision making in the next person.

This sounds a little bit like applying pressure for reasons unknown. A bit like the person trying to help, is in a hurry to finish his “good task of the day” and go back into whatever world they were dwelling in before the interlude.

I believe, secrets aren’t really secrets, they are mostly personal and confidential data, meant to be shared with the chosen few or many, depending on the nature, validity of context, value and relevance, mutually placed on the content of the secret.

Any piece of information regarding self can be considered a secret based on the level of openness or narrow, closed thinking, a person allows themselves to feel and follow.

I share for various reasons, and “choose to hide” for perhaps more.

They are my reasons. They need to make sense to me. They can be questioned, but there are no guarantees to getting an answer unless I see a point in including the next one in the active memory thread by applying means such as asking them about their views or experiences, to gain exposure to ways of dealing with a particular situation.

Asking for ways is no guarantee for taking the call to follow the given advice.

I prefer to spend time collecting data instead of collecting validations, I think it is ridiculous to question ones own instinct, and deprive oneself of a possible wonderful experience of decision making, choosing instead to go with another’s ones advice based on their limited access to your memories and data.

One must filter the advice received by understanding the nature of the source of this sound piece of epiphany.

Sometimes it is with a genuine feeling of nurturing offering us seeds of growth. The advice may sound outdated, but the emotion is very well valid.

Sometimes the advisor is unsure of their own intent. Could it be possible that they are lacing their perception with bias stemming from their personal history? Unless their inner conflict is resolved and dealt with by themselves, their source is vibrating with not so conducive energy.

For you or themselves.

Such advice comes from a place of confusion, blindly following these will land you neck deep in gray confused arenas that are not yours to begin with.

I value privacy, I encourage my son to “hold a thought” process to derive a result from it, then perhaps, share the concluded thought as action.

It could be through an art project or a display of theatrics.

The means of expressing vary with age, time and influence.

Composing one’s thought is an essential and private process. Thinking can evolve around chaos in noise, but not chaos in vibrations. Noise can be physically filtered, but vibrations are soaked deep within.

Having a trusting environment is the basis of clear thinking. The space that adults provide by non-interfering supervision helps a child grow into themselves and love themselves.

Children and adults should be encouraged to hold secrets, it can make one feel empowered.

Thinking is a step by step process. A person can learn to “think” in a way that works for them.

Thinking for self, is the basis of self-love. How can you be trusted to think for someone else if you cannot cultivate a system of thinking, that works for you?

I value and encourage this trait, since it promotes “thought processes” that are not set in stone.

“It” being an active flow of electricity flowing through our human bodies. Our minds job is to constantly filter the contents during its movements/transitions by feeling these emotions, in silence, without reacting ,quietly leading the body vessel to experience life through emotions, not getting stuck, attached and stagnant to any one emotion, by identifying with these passing currents.

Once the cycle is complete and the person has felt/experienced, accepted and is willing to move on to another emotion/current, the mind is freed from the emotional turbulence that is caused by stagnant/pending thoughts.

Its energizing, powerful, insightful, and stunning in terms of growth in perception. It leads to the joyful willingness to adapt to life, by choice.

Its alright to seek for advice when you feel stuck in your thought journey. Seeking advice is not the same as seeking validation.

Often our energies and realities merge into one another’s, upon everyday contact. We forget why we set out to do, what we started.

The purpose gets diluted each time the content is poured onto another’s ones probably full brain bowl, for processing.

The result will be colluded with their imprints to say the least. Their past experiences would lead them to believe the world is a certain way, which may differ from your point of view. Does not make either one right or wrong. Makes two people, true to their own journeys.

It is important to know the source of the journey, is it yours or someone else’s, own or a product of inception? We may find ourselves living extended lives of others, with the help of a tiny seed of thought, incepted in our minds, long ago.

Cultural conditioning?

We are not in practice of maintaining a clean Slate. We do not clean our minds. We do not relax it long enough for it to clean itself. We attach ourselves to certain emotions, for the fear of letting them go and never being able to experience them ever again. Then we find ourselves with a dirty mind, fiercely equipped with dark humor and sarcasm as the preferred way of “dealing with life”.

That’s still, far from living the life.

Will life appear any better than the quality of lens we use?

They say it is crowded at the base, and lonely on the top.

The journey from base to top is where the clutter gets cleared and priorities are made visible. Each person must attempt to start at the base ,despite privileges.

Base here, means survival as per Maslow’s Pyramid. For survival there are a whole lot of physiological needs that need addressing. The needs evolve as one caters to them, one by one, starting right at base. The awareness does not cut itself off from the base, during growth phase, instead it “includes” and chooses to be more accepting and inclusive.

Thus, creating open pathways for secrets to safely walk upon. Feeling Safe and secure in your skin is literally the best feeling ever .

Stay safe peeps :)