The Magic Seed

 

When I think of life from the perspective of death, it changes the way I look at life. I often feel full of love which brings all kinds of emotions to surface.

Like, we do what we do, for love and appreciation. From the time we are born, we are told to please others and be appreciated in exchange.  We are trained to believe our happiness, joy, anger triggers, our emotions basically, lie in the hands of another, the controls of which, we are made to “willingly” give away, early during childhood. This is done by watching adults pretending to love the “virtue” of sacrifice.

A person in tune with their own needs and skill sets, is looked at as “selfish”. I wonder why the person couldn’t be seen as “self-sufficient”. As a mother I would like my son to love himself, identify his needs and be able to take care of them over a period of time, during which I shall try to set an active example of how to love oneself. It would be worrisome if he didn’t know and acknowledge, his changing needs and was forced into being and maintaining a rigid mind and personality, at all ages. He has a right of being flexible with himself, to make and change his decisions as he pleases, following the basic code of decency by informing those involved.

We are truly afraid of a world where we have no one to love. Things can quickly get ugly, if fear dominates the mind. One can lose their inner sight, perception i.e. The ability to discriminate one energy from another, the ability may be temporarily disabled, inability to access vision or foresight may become “normal”, mind could be flooded with unnecessary data, emotions may well be flying around in hot air balloons, taking oneself into a distant faraway reality, only to be popped by the needle of reality and brought back to earth, to fine tune the skill sets of survival, first.

For survival we must learn to love others. We can’t love others unless we have the supply of love, within us, to give. As in, how can we give something we don’t already possess? Love is easily generated by understanding emotions and learning to admire natural beauty of everything. Sure, for survival, love others exclusively all your life, but for Living, one must learn to love themselves. The love for ourselves has become a distant concept because we thrive on the love we feel for others. One must learn to use the system. Not get lost in it forever.

The system allows you to generate love, by admiring others and give it all to oneself. The more your “love kitty’ oozes, the more loving and adorable you become.

Sounds simple but to allow this cycle to materialize, one cannot be associated with jealous, possessive kind of love, which is the by-product of loving another and getting lost in unreal expectations of them. 

You project, you no get thy result, you angry, you pop!

The next one confused. J

Don’t we already live in a world full people with no one to love? No one good enough, passing the rigid quality markers set by one’s own mind, in aid of a quality filter for prospective candidates, who will be grilled skewed and marinated before we decide to let them in how we “truly feel”, as if feelings were meant to come with a premium.

It does when there are questions associated with it, by society, culture, religion, social and home conditioning. We think it gives us a right to question the motives of another, basis the love we feel for them. How does a feeling generated within a second person immediately have anything to do with the first person’s choice? It can influence only if you allow it. You can take away its right of being, by not giving it the permission it needs to form layers on you long enough until it becomes a part of you.

As humans we are tuned into looking for others to be the objects of our time and attention. We seldom focus on the quality of our own being. It’s very important to examine the nature and origin of ones thoughts. The lot of traits that we identify as “me” , have foreign origin, meaning they aren’t your traits to begin with, they are coping gears we adopt during growing years which carries forward to adulthood, unless consciously weeded out with awareness.

At Childhood, during the process of assimilating and making sense of the world, we develop coping skills. They are very much needed as tools in the survival kit. Some of these coping gears may look like mimicking the next person to create bonds, displaying need based reactions only, speaking only when spoken to, being withdrawn and develop alternate mental reality (happens a lot to kids subjected to angry abusive environment). Our society trains young minds to follow as told or risk being an outcaste. Those who recognize their conditioning, engage themselves in activities that can be called therapeutic and healing. During the process of healing, often people emerge as Healers themselves. This outcaste society has grown in numbers over centuries. In the mainstream there are many distractions, enough clubs to glorify anything one may think of. And if it isn’t already glorified, then start a blog and a website to glorify it.

The mind-set of the society in general has become so mundane and has tuned into attaining what they think as their “needs”, forgetting the very origin of each craving. Most often, grossly misidentifying the sensation and misinterpreting it to be something completely different from the source. For example, the need for appreciation as an adult, maybe misconstrued as being needy by a partner, dominating by a mother or in-law , power hungry by a father or in-law, a mortal threat by a sibling, competition by a friend, attention hungry by outsiders. 

You get the drift right. Now imagine each one projecting their image of you, on you. Constantly, while all you really are doing is, asking for love and appreciation, shown maybe through a gesture like holding hand, or hug or a warm home cooked meal.

You can learn to love a person by understanding their conditioning. By identifying the roots of their patterns, it gets easier to understand them.

Understanding creates love. Period.

Sometimes even a look or moan of genuine acknowledgement can kindle the hearth fire within you. It’s very important to be in tune with your hearth fire, to nourish, kindle and cherish it. Without being tuned into it, you may become avaricious.

This is why strangers seem nicer to talk to. You can wear a different hat and they can watch a different skit. That is if playing with projections is your thing. I like to treat them like guilty pleasure- the gossip column feed.

The bottom line is you cannot, not acknowledge the natural need to process thoughts, and make it beautiful for storage, hence the need to capture a moment or person or whatever. It is this need for brain feed, that one looks outside of self, to find in another. If we could just acknowledge that we have all the imagination we need, to sustain our bodies beautifully (true, others “influence” your digestion but you “control it “) we could learn to love ourselves in different ways. And that is truly enough.

Ok Bye, more opinions later.