New theory of R-Evolution

15 December 2010

14:59

Sometimes being at home ….. helps one evolve...

How?

Simple,…..

The mind works in simple logic, ...

At home one has to change their pattern of behaviour so as to suit the decorum set by the elders as house rules....their pattern ie.

there are often one too many restrictions. Leading to difference of opinions. Generation gap as some call it.

Since for the parents the children are always children.... they never seem to grow up !!

or seem to have their LIVES or minds of their own..

.and.no one respects people with no mind ...DUH!

So they obviously ignore the stand the child chooses to take.

What would a brainless little child know about life anyways huh??

so the parents think, the kids constantly need to be told , and its such a hassle to "constantly " attend to someone else whine on and on….it sometimes skips the mind that conversations can be mere "sharing" and not always suggestion seeking,

So they hit ignore the minute the child speaks.

This obviously provokes the kido who is offended by the lack of audience,

but since the kido has out of choice or none, decided to stay under the same roof as their bloodgivers , he/she must compromise or atleast try to co operate!

its only a matter of little time that they too would have their own place if they dont already ...

anyways, so after the saturation point is hit in ones mind, the tolerance is at its peak limits.... the mind cant afford to lose balance in insane situations when your mum wud fuss about something trivial, just coz she doesnt get to see enough of you and is trying to make conversations and doesnt quite know what to say, since you guys hardly TALK about REALITY, of your life ..or theirs.....

she is just trying to dig for information which she plans to furnish to her partner..

in her version of a polished way "at the right opportune moment"….which doesnt always work in favour of the poor child :P

her stand is that of a representative peacemaker/homemaker/wife/mom/impartial judge…. And also she must consciously show loyalty to the head of the family, so she tries to weigh her words to make sure nothing sounds like she is against your dad, (( they probably kill eachother everyday... after a few decades of loyal union what else can one expect ??))

but to cover all the scars of confusion the parent puts up a picture of perfection. the ideal.

but the kid is obviously smart enough to figure out the facade. same bloodline you see. can sense the similarity in traits and respond . totally unaware is the conscious mind..... who is sitting there getting confused with all this reactions going on...

the spawn doesnt and cant say much in defence purely as a sign of respect .

doesnt support invasion of privacy.

cant afford to. he/she has too many secrets and would kill than let the "originals" know anything of the REAL time status of his/her life....lest they make new RULES!!

and going against the new rules would be such a PAIN! new seeds of guilt get planted every season, based on the level of communication.

parents arounds the world follow a secret code of parenting. they are all secretly and yet legal "travel agents for guilt trip s"

im sure its patented... i just donno who is minting money from it.

anywhoo....

each party doesn’t let their guards down and open up since they are afraid of being judged. and they have worked so hard to create that impression of nonchalant perfection, the role models .....and cant afford a error in action lead to something as disastrous as the child seeing the weak and vulnerable side of their real lives and start questioning the stability of home yada yada yada……

be it a display of simple mood swing. accompanied by a verbal warning of course.

(now thats formal :P)

all this ekta kapoor style drama ?? What for ?? Is a sane minds thought!!!

its jus the premium they pay to maintain that air of discipline so as not to spoil the children .

Is what you will hear from a parent…

Whats not taked about is that It also helps in the masterplan of trying to provide the child with a nice family environment so the child gets drawn to such environments and leaves his/ her loafer friends and nod an approval for marriage. Their dream come true :)

Responsibilities well taken care of :P

so back to the r-evolution......

To zone out from family scene mentally speaking ….

(( lets face it !! No one seems to "like" their family!!

they remind us too much of what we "could" become!!! Physically, mentally and sometimes spiritually speaking….. Atleast they set the benchmark and Sometimes that’s a very scary thought!

Everyone just seems to "love " the family. !!

family love= unconditional love. (( that’s the formula fed into minds ))

Which means, under any condition , one must not only have to remember to love, but also get muddled thinking how to SHOW it as a reflection of ones mindset……

most rifles backfire :P

So to zone out from ones family environment, we tend to find new zones of interest. hence we discover more about our ownself.

No one seems to act until provoked to do so! Terrible I say :P

Most of this happens,without ones conscious mind in action. All this is defence action.

How?

Simple again…. Whenever we are forced to be in situations that demand our attention without our wanting to pay any, our sub conscious mind takes over…….(( of course!! after the defences have given a green sign of go ahead….))..and starts to create a distraction for the viewer to re -entertain themselves.

In the search of a distraction the mind and body often co ordinate and find themselves into a new territory of interest. The interest which starts off as a sign of defence to assumed provocation, then gets fully blown - depending on the interest level of a person…. Into maybe a new talent discovery. !!

Or atleast a new way to kill time :P

Auto pilot all this, if your life is anything like mine. Most of the time I think I have landed into a soap opera each time I visit home.

Or maybe all this is coz on a regular day, im home alone . And I love it so :P

So in a way, family tree is sort of figured out in my head im thinking!!!!!

Maybe its about time, I start churning my brain in the whirlpool of another thought.

HOME….

Benefits include getting me realigned in shape.

mind, body- soul need to come together to be able to consciously plan out phase 2.

after all home is where the heart is :P

cheers!